Verification

If you are a female and the card has MR on it. They dont accept it, but if it says Mr and you are a male they accept it were is the verification there. I went to phoenix shoprite they wont accept my mother using my card so my brother went to into the pin coz they said its a verification they do. What nonsense. U verify some by they id and name on the card and the signature on the back of the card.