Visa life partner

Myself and my partner are living happily together for 3 years. We got engaged two years ago and we have a daughter as well. We app**** for a life partner visa which cost me so much money. I had to pay for lawyers fees and to get all the relevant documents together. After putting through the application 3 months later we received a letter informing us that our application was declined. We then has 10 days to appeal in which we had to provide more documents proving our relationship which we did. The appeal cost me R1200.00. Not long after i received notification that the appeal was declined and we were given another 10 days to appeal again. I am now extremely angry and at my wits end. This is a money making business and i feel as though i am being **********. the application process alone is excruciating and expense is exploitation. Im ashamed to be called a South african. I am so digusted and disappointed